This is when I preach some common sense into you girls.
We all know that you are doing an amazing job. You are smart and talented and get along well with your co-workers. Plus, and this is a huge one, you like coming into work everyday. You are good at solving problems, you manage your team with a strong and understanding manner, you don’t take extra sick days.
It’s all good.
Here’s a likely scenario: you’re coming up for an end of year evaluation and you know you are overdue for a raise. Or (Oh my), you are ambitious, and you want a promotion.
You suddenly find yourself not sleeping well, nervous and scared about the conversation you want to happen, but would really prefer that somebody else have it for you.
If you live by the 5 Commandments of Getting a Raise (you were given a 50% commandment discount because you are reading this to get ready for: The Talk), you will have control of the otherwise possibly (probably) awkward conversation that is ahead of you.
Here comes Mount Sinai:
- Thou Shalt Be Prepared: For argument’s sake, let’s pretend your boss doesn’t really want to give you a raise, hypothetically speaking. You must practice ahead of time the same way you would for a job interview. Try to anticipate their responses and questions so that you can have answers ready. Practice out loud, not just in your head. If you can, do some roleplaying with somebody you respect, your cat included.
- Thou Shalt Believe Thyself: Would you give yourself a raise? Yes, if you came in with the appropriate ammunition, such as examples for when you saved the company money, were able to prevent a dissatisfied customer from leaving, or bagged a great account. Keep a running list of these accomplishments ready for when you need them. Not everybody else is paying as close attention to the great work that you are doing, so help them to remember. Be ready with relevant examples of when you were a company rock star.
- Thou Shalt Not Feel Bad: When you get a raise or a promotion, more likely than not it means that somebody else did not get that promotion. This is your career, your livelihood, your accomplishment. You worked hard for it and you deserve it! Whether you like it or not, this is a competition, and you are in it to win it. When your superior asks you why they should give the raise to you and not to your peer, you better be ready with your answer. Be assertive, straight-forward and to the point. No back-stabbing, ever. Again, be prepared.
- Thou Shalt Be a True Prophet: A good way to convince your boss of your brilliance is to help them plan the future. Talk about trends you’ve noticed, ideas you’re excited to start implementing, and ways to get more clients. Be the best you can be.
- Thou Shalt Not Regret Not Asking: If you don’t get that promotion because you didn’t try, you will resent the person who did. Even worse, you will resent yourself. The same is true if you don’t ask for a raise. This dissatisfaction will not dissipate. It will grow into a more generalized sense of ill feeling. Towards your coworkers, your boss and your job.
Thou shalt heed these fine words, save thyself displeasure and stagnation.
Go get prepared, then get that raise!
Edie Berg is the CEE (Chief Executive Everything) at The Strong Women’s Club, which highlights the behind-the-scenes stories of successful women with a weekly podcast.
Edie is also the facilitator of Strong Women’s Mastermind groups and produces Strong Women’s Online Summits.
Edie’s careers have included Physical Therapist, Personal Chef and Culinary Instructor, Executive Administrative Manager and a few other things along the way.
Edie believes that it is never too late to do what you love, that you can live without guilt and that hard work brings good luck.
She has lived in California, Australia, Canada, Boston, and is currently enjoying life CrossFitting, with her blended family of her 4 kids and his 2 kids in Israel.
Edie tweets here: @edieberg
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