by Annette Burgess
“I’m not smart enough.” “I don’t live in the right zip code.” “I’m not anything special.” Chances are we’ve all had to deal with negative thoughts when we’ve been given new responsibilities, stop a bad habit or implement a good one.
There was a time in my life when I would be waiting for the other shoe to drop. I’m sure we have all been there and if you haven’t – consider yourself lucky, honey! Something amazing would happen, but I just couldn’t allow myself to be in that happy space for too long. It’s not a nice place to be.
To be honest, it’s up to us if we choose to stay there. I gather that since you follow this blog, you want the best for yourself – you want the most out of life. Unfortunately, we can be our worst enemy.
Read on for three ways you can kick self-sabotage on its butt, when it tries to rear its ugly head:
1. Lose the box.
That critical inner voice likes to keep us in a boxed in. It can be tricky and floods us with thoughts that are seemingly self-soothing. It’s easier, after all, to recognize an internal enemy when it’s yelling at you that you’re stupid or a failure. It’s harder to identify it when it’s whispering thoughts like, “You’re fine on your own”, or “don’t make a fool of yourself, and even “Don’t worry about your goals today.” This soft, parental voice is dangerous. Listening to this voice makes us feel comfortable at first, but once we give-in to bad habits or avoid going after what we want, the self-loathing begins. Get out of that headspace and try something new – even if you look stupid doing it!
2. Fear is a Liar.
Fear is usually at the root of what holds us back—fear of the unknown or unfamiliar, fear of failure, or even fear of facing pain or rejection. The truth is, we are much more resilient than we think. That same inner voice that tells us we can’t handle obstacles feeds our fear. But in reality, life is both joyful and painful – it has to be. Our inner critic shields us from feeling the pains and joys of existence. To face our fears, we must consciously identify and actively ignore this voice. Fear is a liar. Kick its ass.
3. Go easy on yourself.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
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