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6 Traits That Characterizes The Essence Of Being A Strong Woman @SheinBusiness

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by Aakanksha Srivastava

Since the History Books state it, the Governance of the Civil Laws mean it and the Society in general follows it, have we, as 21st Century Citizens ever tried to figure out the epoch where we began to consider women to be the members of the weaker sex?

NO! Not Really!

But Seriously! Did God send us with an attached label that bracketed us to be the debilitated being of the genus?

So, why do femmes all around the world still have to prove their power and strength in regards to whatever field they boot up for?

They absolutely shouldn’t.

And there shouldn’t be any urge for you to do the same. A strong, confident woman portrays her robust and fierce characteristics with her captivating demeanour, her stark wit and compassionate vehemence.

The vibe around such woman makes her stand apart. And you should too try to imbibe the same characteristics in your personality as well.

Remember: Whatsoever, the weight of the truth your speech expressions might sustain, Your Acts would always manifest what your words cannot!
So Shall I or Shall I not?

No! No! No! No! No!

(Apparently, there is going to be a good count of No’s in the article, so, you should better try to perceive it as an adamantine word of honor)

Now, retorting to the specific question, you must understand that you do not, at any point of time have to self-doubt yourself. As females, we are bestowed with the capability of 6th Sense and Intuition. We almost, majority of the times, know the road that could be taken for our goodness sake. So why shall there be a room for bubbles of incompetence? Go where your inner voice directs you to proceed! You should not even care to listen to the unwisely and negative opinions put up by others. This, subsequently, brings us to our next point:

Owning up to the Mistakes. Now, now, as per the majority: minority ratio, there are a few chances of us making the wrong decisions for certain things. And it is OKAY! As a strong woman, you should know how to battle out your tough circumstances. I mean, nobody has got their life sorted. And then Sorted often oughts to be kinda Boring!

And as the exceptional Author, Isabel Allende once quoted, “We all have an unsuspected reserve of strength inside that emerges when life puts us to test”, it should be our reverence to comprehend the depth of her writing.

The next point, is rather, a very complex and delicate one, and Mother’s Day being (a) round the corner, having an acknowledgement about the fact of the many a times our mothers, grandmothers, the wives, the daughters, sisters, girlfriends have performed to be the backbone during our tough times, it is a humble request for all of you, to Not to Unfollow your Ambitions and Life Goals for looking after the household. After all it is a matter about your career.

Now. Please try to understand this with a calm mind. Your family should be your priority. Undoubtedly! But you should remember to fulfill the purpose of your life. And do it at the most definite. I mean come on! Women can balance their work and personal life very well. Many have and so can you. And now when the whole world is going digital, you can take care of your family and look after your job and business while discharging your personal duties! You can start up your own business, pledging upon the burgeoning of your talent. And a Platform to Reform Digitally, ‘She in Business’ lays out exactly an opposite proposition for all the aspiring women entrepreneurs out there. Getting enlisted in the Ace Directory of the particular website could turn the wheels of your Business Goals, hence, affirming you the deserved progression of your Business. So, Register now with ‘She in Business’ Business Directory to observe success in both your professional and private life!

Now, according to facts stated by ‘Dove’, a Personal Care Brand owned by Unilever, 70% of women do not relate to how they are represented in Media & Advertising. It is the Foundation of Comparison that Ruins your Self-Esteem and Confidence. But Woman! You are definitely worth it! And you do not require a backing by the society for the approval of who you are, what you look like, where are you from. A single streak of credence regarding what an incredible woman you are, is just enough for you to get going. Do learn from others, but do not weigh up your life with theirs! Remember! Everybody is fighting a battle of their own! You are there to focus on your Goal.

So, Constant Challenge to Yourself Would Encourage You to Take Risks.Make sure as a Strong, Independent woman, you should embrace yourself to not to live in a bubble. Being exposed to tough situations could help boost your conviction towards your goals and yourself.
And lastly, keeping this point short and simple, always strive to Be Realistic. Do not overplay your strength. You do not have to unnecessarily give explanations to people for any act of yours. Be certain that Confidence is Silent. Silence is Classy. And Insecurities are Loud.

Therefore, wrapping it up, I would like to emphasize again_ you as a woman are not liable to prove your strength to any individual on Earth. All the traits mentioned are to be imbibed, not to be flaunted. Make sure of that!

Happy Empowerment to you!

 

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With her thirst for innovation, Aakanksha Srivastava devised a remarkable initiative of ‘She in Business’, a Prominent Feature Directory and Nexus Platform that could help in reforming the presence of Women Entrepreneurs Digitally. With a passion to uplift women, Aakanksha pulls out all the stops into her work. And not just limiting herself to that, Aakanksha transpires to be the Co-Founder of the ‘The Aspiring CEO’, a Digital Media and Marketing Agency as well. To know more about the strong-willed lady, visit SheInBusiness.Com

Owning Your Personal Power in Your Life and Business @beck_ruiz

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Owning Your Personal Power in Your Life and Business

by Rebecca Ruiz | Featured Contributor

In life and business we aim to stand out from the crowd and be different because it’s important for us to be unique, that makes us real. This is why our customer’s and client’s choose us because of what we offer is not the same as everyone else.

What happens when you struggle with standing out and you want to fit in with the crowd? I’m here to tell you it’s a normal reaction because it’s part of human behaviour to want to have acceptance from within ourselves and people around us. If these thoughts are only for a passing moment or stay around for a short time this is ok because it’s just passing by. If you are comparing yourself all the time, with this taking over your life and business this is where we need to look within ourselves in order for us to move forward.

During my life coach training we studied the 4 pillars and my favourite was always uniqueness. I personally love being different and fitting the mould is not who I am because this makes me real. All my challenges, mistakes and personal growth are me, which means that I am being authentic. This is something I have learnt along the way which is why I am sharing my journey to help others on the personal development side of business. Let’s start to own your own power.

Stop Judging Yourself

Judgement within along with wondering what other’s are thinking about you can stop you from achieving your goals and putting yourself out there in the world. I’m going to share a story of when I chose to let go of the judgement within, when I taught myself how to public speak in front of others.

I had a terrible fear of public speaking so I created a personal development group and started presenting to them to work through this. Getting over my fear was a big hurdle but the biggest was actually letting go of my own judgement. I needed to believe in myself, trust and share my knowledge with them, as they wanted to learn. If I had stayed within myself I wouldn’t of helped all those people in my group which I am glad I moved past my own judgement.

We are often our own harshest critics and how we speak to ourselves we would never speak to others in the same way. Start getting aware of your thoughts and listen to any reoccurring patterns such as negativity. Awareness is the first step to letting go of the judgement within by using techniques such as meditation to work through your thoughts or find the best practice that works for you.

Becoming more authentic

What is becoming more authentic all about? In business we want to share our gifts and talents with the world because it makes us real. People respond well to down to earth people, sharing your celebrations and talking about your challenges. Your current audience and potential clients want to get to know the real you.

As a life coach I’m going to use an example of a couple of life coaches that I follow online. These coaches share their story, which includes their struggles, their celebrations, what it took to get a successful business going and what’s going on for them currently. I have learnt a lot from them as they are honest and tell it exactly as it is which is really refreshing. They are authentic in their message and this makes them a good leader to others.

With this example in mind I am going to set you a challenge to become more authentic in your daily life and business.

What can you do to be more authentic in your life and business right now?

Choose from this moment forward to be yourself, speak your mind, share your journey and stand out. This takes practice like set daily reminders, use meditations and write your challenges in your journal. Whichever works for you to keep you on track until it becomes a habit. True acceptance comes within by getting comfortable with being you and using this in your everyday life and business.

Owning your own power

As we have already looked at judging yourself and becoming more authentic, it’s time to have fun by owning your own power. We are all different which means that we can all make our own impact in the world. Let’s make a difference by making a pact together to start owning our own power.

It comes back to trusting yourself and having the belief that you know what’s best for you. Yes we all make mistakes but each one of these is about your personal growth and what you learn from the experience. You are amazing, powerful, unique and authentically you. Show up each day by being this person and shine your light brightly because you only get one life so enjoy every single moment.

Thank you for reading my post on owning your personal power in your life and business, I would like to set a very small challenge for you. What are 5 things you are going to start owning in your life? I would love to hear from you below.

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Rebecca RuizRebecca Ruiz is a certified confidence life coach, professional copywriter, blogger, and freelance writer at Life Perceptions based in Perth Australia. She inspires women entrepreneurs through her one on one life coaching to build their self esteem along with their confidence to create more success in their life and businesses. She runs her exclusive invitation only small group program “Mentoring for Success” twice per year.

Rebecca has always being a writer since she was a child and now uses her skills as a professional copywriter. She loves making words come alive by writing web copy, SEO and sales pages that helps women entrepreneurs make more money. She combines her unique style of coaching and copywriting skills to teach women how to write their own copy with confidence. She also loves freelance writing, blogging in her favourite areas of personal development and travel for online magazines.

When Rebecca isn’t working she loves practicing yoga along with sampling gourmet food and wine with her husband.

You can find out more and connect with Rebecca on https://www.facebook.com/lifeperceptions and Twitter.

First rule of FIERCE club by @YouAreFIERCE

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by Tamara Charles | Featured Contributor

I recently gave a keynote speech at an event called FEMpower which brought together young women between the ages of 15-25. When I was first approached to give this presentation I was honoured but quickly became concerned about how to present to a younger audience since most of my speeches opened with “Rule #1 for living a FIERCE life: Don’t be a catty bitch!” and were peppered with f-bombs and inappropriate innuendoes.

After gulping down a cuppa coffee, I decided to reshape my speech and focus on this age group by sharing what I went through at that age, tailoring it to let them know that whatever they were going through right now, they could take as many detours as they needed and they would still get to where they need to be.

Presenting this speech was a real self-check for me, one which I was ready for but didn’t know I could articulate as well as I wanted. I shared the raw details of my life with them being as brutally honest as possible while trying to make a point.

I told them about having a drink with my mom in the scummiest bar in town when I was 18 and how I shot dirty looks at anyone who dared look at me. I sneered at the other patrons thinking how I was so much better than them and how I would never, EVER be anything like them.

I then told the girls how arrogant that was, thinking I was better than anyone else, and how I know now that I was more scared that I would end up like those patrons than anything. Arrogance, I said, was not an attractive trait.

I told the girls about the many bad decisions I had made in my life and quoted S.E. Hinton’s The Outsiders Dally Winston’s character: “You get tough like me and you don’t get hurt! You watch out for yourself, and nothing can touch you!” That was the motto I lived my life by until I was about 25. I told them how I know now that I had deliberately sabotaged friendships and thought I was pretty tough, you know, because I grew up in such a tough neighbourhood so, duh, of course I was badass.

Uh, no. The reality of it is that it was all a front, a survival tactic. I addressed my own faults showed them that it’s OK to be flawed and make mistakes but that the key is to learn from those mistakes.

By the looks on their faces, I had their complete attention so I told them what it took to empower each other and why it was so important, and I left them with three tips to live a FIERCE life:

1: Don’t be a catty bitch.

I know, I know, they’re young girls but the reality is a statement like that packs more of a punch than, “Don’t be a mean girl.” This truly is the first rule of FIERCE. If you can’t give a genuine compliment, don’t give one. If you have to point out the flaws in someone else or bemoan someone else’s success, you’re missing the point of empowerment.  This includes when you trash talk celebrities or criticize the women on the Red Carpet. You need to quit that. Not only is it NOT empowering, it teaches your daughter that it’s OK to make fun of other girls.

The thing is, we’ve ALL done it at some point in our lives whether you’ve thought about it or actually said it. No matter what age you are it’s time to Knock. It Off.

2: Own your mistakes.

You’ve screwed up, made bad decisions, done things you wish you could take back. We all have. There’s no point in dwelling on them, regretting them or denying them. Be honest about who you are and what you’ve done and you’ll take away the power from anyone who tries to make you feel bad about yourself.

*pop culture moment* Have you seen 8 Mile? I’m a huge Eminem fan and the one scene that really stuck with me was when he was in his final rap battle where he took every bad thing about his life that the other rapper was going to point out and he OWNED that shit. He even turned it around and made fun of himself then went on to point out the other guy’s secret. That, my friends, is called reclaiming your power.

3. Tigers don’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.

OK that’s something I saw on Facebook but it resonates doesn’t it?! Whenever you’re the target of someone’s judgement or gossip, repeat this mantra and BE the tiger. Consider the source of who’s saying what and put it into perspective. Do they matter to you? No. Do they control your emotions? Nope, that’s on you, too. Do they surround themselves with other gossipy twits? Probably so shrug it off and move on.

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Tamara Charles – Inspirational Motivator, You Are FIERCE, Edmonton, AB.

TamaraTamara is the founder/producer of the FIERCE Awards, an initiative that has been celebrating people who make a difference since 2010. Through her own story of resilience, she has inspired others to move past the negativity and shift their perspectives to focus on the good in others and themselves. She is a former journalist, current social media/coffee addict, and in the process of releasing her first book: Yes I am! An Abso-f*^kin-lutely FIERCE Guide to Living an Inspired Life. She has been a magazine publisher, speaker, blogger, consultant, and was named the 1st-ever Hot Momma’s Canadian Case Study recipient in 2010. Tamara believes empowerment doesn’t have to come in a frilly package; sometimes it comes with a kick in the ass & an f-bomb or six. Connect with her on Twitter or keep up to date with her at YouAreFIERCE.com