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One simple decision in the morning will transform your lifestyle and well-being! by @AnuMeera2024

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by Anu Bhatnagar

As a business owner, your life is all about smart decisions and making the most of the resources on daily basis.  Are are you taking that one very simple, profound decision that can transform your health and wellbeing?

The decision to have a well balanced breakfast on regular basis – how about it?

Breakfast – yes, this simple step can be an anchor of your well-being and better health.

Health studies have time and again pointed out that the breakfast is the most important meal of the day. In the next 400 words, I share why and how you can make it a part of your life.

Six benefits for a winning start:

  • Fuel the brain and start with optimal performance, including better thinking and more clarity.
  • Give your body a signal to regulate vital functions and reduce cravings.
  • Helps balance your hormones and prevents sudden drips in energy throughout the day.
  • You can stay on track with weight and fitness goals. Science says we consume lesser fats, eat more fruit and vegetables and have higher daily fiber intake after a breakfast.
  • Lower tendencies to eat junk food.
  • Better cardiovascular health is a result of overall good lifestyle habits including regular breakfast, moderate exercise and sleep.

But where is the time – the I – am – too – busy struggle is real.

Yes, you are busy, you have 100s of tasks to check and you are running an entire brand on your own. However only ten minutes a day or less for your self-care is a very good decision.

I will make it easier for you to make it an enjoyable and easy experience!

No-excuse Breakfast under 5 minutes!

  • A fruit and green smoothie is a winner. All you need is a cup of milk, yogurt or coconut water plus a handful of spinach, some fruits and your breakfast is ready in less than three minutes.
  • Yogurt and fruits is well balanced combination of whatever fruits you have. Pick out of full fat, low fat or any variation and simply layer with a mix of fruits of your choice. Strawberries, blueberries, banana, apples are all great choices.
  • The power of dry fruits is unmatched. Dry fruits are nutrition dense foods which mean a handful is enough to add good value. Almonds, walnuts, dates and raisins with yogurt or a glass of milk or coconut water and you are set.
  • If you can plan in advance then use oats and quinoa, fruits, milk, and any number of ingredients to make simple, creative and filling breakfast bowls

Not a sweet person? Try savory breakfast that can be ready in less than 10 minutes.

  • Boiled eggs salad with simple toppings of diced tomatoes or salt and pepper.
  • A multigrain toast with scrambled eggs is a perfect choice. You get bonus points for adding greens to your eggs.
  • A savory muffin is an easy filling choice and there are ample organic varieties and if you are a baker yourself then you can choose n number of veggies that can go in it.

With ten minutes of planning, better shopping and quick adaptation, anyone can start having a well balanced breakfast. Anyone, including very busy entrepreneurs like you!

 

 

Consumer v. Producer : Which are YOU? by @SBSLEducSoltns

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Stretching your Entrepreneurial Thinking

While entrepreneurs will always consume certain resources, no different from our staff, or other citizens,, we shouldn’t think through a consumer lens nor should we spend precious time being one. So, let’s shake things up!

 

While reading, please invest time to ask yourself some questions. As I often advise mentees, be reflective; forego being reflexive or reactive. The difference is profound.

 

The Consumer

Per Dictionary.com , … origin: 14th C [1375–1425] = “squanderer”

 

What a strong connotation! Do we really desire to have our business(es) associated with this definition, even if its meaning has evolved somewhat over the passage of time?!

 

Why are we ‘encouraged’ , compelled, or even shamed into consuming?

The answer is too complex to address in a blog post, yet, we are able to unravel some characteristics of a consumerist.

 

He/She/They …

 

  • Oft carry a considerable amount of consumer debt
  • Will be watching, listening to, or reading lots of content from the mass media*
  • Quite likely is a side-preneur still receiving a regular paycheck as a W-2’er
  • Fairly often feel uncomfortable discussing economics or talking about money/finances

& …

  • Might use words like ‘retail therapy’, be distressed** , and/or focused on material things

( inc. transactions to make more $ versus building business relationships. )

 

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“Every man is a consumer, and ought to be a producer. He is by constitution expensive, and needs to be rich.”

 

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Sign of a Consumerist

 

Self deception ( vid clip HERE ) is strong; maybe we know in the depths of our soul, by looking at our financial statements, or just in our gut that we are living a consumerist life while building our entrepreneurial venture/s, yet … we outwardly deny it, in our self-talk, our conversations with others, etc.

 

If you do this, you’re not alone. Some signals, both implicit & explicit to home in on & eventually course correct include:

 

  • Not paying off credit cards monthly
  • Driving in a vehicle that you don’t actually own
  • Expensive office space which raises your rates needlessly
  • Not leveraging the countless discount programs/apps/memberships available
  • Buying costly drinks or meals while at events

 

What’ll it Take … a ‘voice of courage’

Laying the groundwork for a major mindset shift will clearly impact all spheres of your business ‘being’ :  heart, mind, spirit/soul, & financial. Yet, it’s still January, and here’s hoping that you invested quality time and treasure creating and then taking action to live out these 2019 mantras, goals, or habit transformations instead.

 

If you’ve not yet carved a line item in your business blueprint for a mentor, a coach, or a niche consultant

( a good friend is ideal for the latter: Cherish Your World/Feng Shui Consultant ),  … now would be a great time!

 

A Producer’s Model

Defined here , with its synonyms including ‘builder’ & ‘creator’; which leads me to ask a few questions:

 

Don’t we all want to be known, in our branding, sales, & marketing, as these things?

Why would we knowingly choose its opposite?

 

Which characteristics might ID this type of business pro?

 

He/She/They …

 

  • Understand Y.D.I.L ***  when it comes to their finances/money ‘mind’.
  • Participate in social capital creating/expanding actions: Connecting others, serving in their communities, & building ‘roots & wings’ in their households.
  • Have eschewed a paycheck from a 3rd party & are sustaining on dollars earned through serving & solving.
  • Understand the value of time > money.  ( read previous post )

& …

  • Oft use words like legacy, leadership, leverage, significance, & value in everyday conversation.

 

Suggested Profiles

 

Brent Wehmeyer

 

Eric Kim

 

Producers Manifesto Poster

 

*** More on Y.D.I.L.

Y = You, Inc. [ ‘investing’ in your mind – trillion $+ ‘real estate’ ]

 

D = {consumer} debt [ pay off, or better yet, bypass proactively ]

 

I = Investments [ mainstream financial vehicles ]

 

L = Lifestyle [ far better to live below or right at par/your means ]

 

By committing to this informal, yet powerful acronym, my entire financial picture & level of consciousness, were shifted, bit by bit.

= I became a producer!

 

You can, too.

Starting, and perhaps expanding,  your business mustn’t originate from the scraps on your monetary table: It should be the main course, growing in parallel with your self-leadership as the “CEO” of You, Inc.

 

Value squared

Many thought leaders have previously opined on similar topic/s; I’m always pleased to cross reference their content & encourage readers in this community to learn more about them.

 

Their specialized knowledge, paired with mine, should generate lots of value for you, the reader.

 

The Producers Manifesto

Consumer v. Producer

Start Every Day as a Producer …

* Infographic – What is the ‘mass media’?

** https://www.mentalhelp.net/articles/types-of-stressors-eustress-vs-distress/

 

In short …

 

  • Know the clear differences b/w a consumer(ist) & a producer
  • Click to Tweet the Emerson quote: there’s a very elevated level of consciousness within it.
  • Invest time to click on the links provided to follow the bread crumb trail of wisdom
  • Connect with the suggested social media accounts & thank them for being producers 🙂
  • Paint yourself with a producer’s Picassian flair!  #BeAnExample
  • Y.D.I.L. is very insightful, yet very contrarian.

 

Thank YOU for reading!

How A Positive Mental Attitude Affects both Health and Happiness by @timewithtammy

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How A Positive Mental Attitude Affects both Health and Happiness

by Tamela Duncan | Featured Contributor 

Did you know the cells in your body actually feel the energy of your thoughts, and women are prone to have a mental framework of highly stressed thinking? Tension, anxiety, depression, and stress are frequently reported emotions of women. Women tend to be “worriers,” over-thinking stressful situations. In today’s society, the typical stressors reported are things like: trying to find a parking space, traffic, phone battery dying, not having enough time, having to wait in line, misplacing or losing things, not hearing back from someone by text, and over scheduling. Then there are the big issues: finances, relationships, health issues, work issues, family stressors, and major life changes. Even happy events tend to stress women out – getting married, your child getting married, holidays and even planning a trip. Everyone can always find something to stress about, but choose how you deal with it.

Emotions not only impact your joy, but they also impact your health. An improved mental outlook can actually reduce your risk of coronary disease − ongoing stress, and negative attitude has been found to cause thickening of the carotid artery walls. People with worrisome or negative thought patterns have greater sleep issues; wake feeling tired and even grumpy. They are more prone to small illnesses such as headache, stomach and bowel issues, and have higher incidences of depression and anxiety. Negative thinking upsets the bodies hormonal balance, depletes the brain of those “happy” biochemicals, and damages the immune system.

Thought about a situation, regardless of how stressful it is, is mental attitude. Your mental attitude is chosen, and even when you feel it isn’t, you can learn how to choose it. A person’s overall contentment and happiness are largely determined by how they emotionally interpret and process information. One fourth (25%) of your overall happiness will be determined by how you emotionally handle stress.

So how do you begin to change your mental attitude?  You start by liking and believing in yourself, having hope and holding optimistic thoughts in your heart and mind.  Accept that sometimes things won’t go your way − and then choose to have a positive emotional bounce back. Look for what’s right in life vs. what is wrong. Believe it or not, a simple hug will release oxytocin which is that warm fuzzy biochemical. Hug that loved one, friend or four-legged critter every chance you get. Laughter, learning to relax and not take things so seriously; working to sometimes accept things as they are will reduce negative energy. Remember to have gratitude as most of us are surrounded by many gifts of life. Play music, dance for no reason at all. And the next time someone steals your parking space, showers down on their horn or “flips you the bird”; wave, smile and wish them well. Your life is meant to be enjoyed.

Big changes are important, but little changes can make a big difference. Your overall mental attitude will affect your quality of life; so why not choose a good one. A positive attitude is the fuel that keeps us active, engaged, curious, hopeful and determined…which are also the qualities needed to have an emotionally happy and successful life.

The Thought Police: Why Your Thoughts Are Holding You Back by @valjonescoach

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The Thought Police: Why Your Thoughts Are Holding You Back

A photo by Léa Dubedout.

by Valerie Jones | Featured Contributor

It takes a lot of courage to be an entrepreneur.

It is not for the faint of heart.

I had no idea, when I started my business, what it really required.

Courage. Stamina. Discipline. Tenacity. Sacrifice.

Right?

We get up each and every morning, and there’s no boss to tell us what to do. No manager looking over our shoulder. Nobody checking up on us.

It’s just you.

You’re the boss. And that’s why you’re an entrepreneur, right? So that you get to be the boss of YOU.

Which is awesome, and exciting, and freeing.

And, at the same time, terrifying.

Because if you’re the boss, then it’s all up to you. You’re it.

This requires you to show up for yourself, each and every day. This means you carry the responsibility of your business and the bottom line. This means you are the heart and soul of your business.

Like I said before, it’s not for the faint of heart.

Being an entrepreneur means you need to believe in yourself like crazy. You can’t stay small and you can’t play safe. It requires big moves and big risks. You have to show up, hustle like crazy, and put yourself out there. Way out there.

And we do, right? Day after day, week after week, year after year we do. We show up and do the work.

And yet.

So often, behind all the effort, beneath all the drive and polish and performance, there’s something missing.

I see it all the time with my clients. Women who are doing the work, busting their butts and making it happen, but deep down inside, have a belief that is sabotaging everything.

You don’t believe you have what it takes.

It doesn’t make sense, right? There you are, being a rock star. Putting yourself out there, conquering your industry.

Of course you believe you have what it takes.

But.

At the end of the day, or in the middle of the night, the voices start.

I’m never going to make it. I’m a fraud. What if people found out who I really am? I’m not smart enough. I’m not working hard enough. I’m not going to get clients. I’m not going to make any money. I’m not…I’m not…I’m not.

These voices are real, and scary, and always there, just waiting for you to slow down and be still. Then they pounce. And you listen. And you believe it.

And it’s keeping you from getting what you want.

Because when you believe these voices – when you entertain them and allow them to become your reality, your truth – it changes how you show up in your life. It keeps you from being your best self. It keeps you small. It keeps you hiding. So as much as you might experience a certain amount of success, as long as you believe the voices, you will never break past a certain level.

We all have a shadow self. Everyone has that voice in their heads that speaks the lies. Some of us listen more than others, and the more we listen, the louder that voice gets. If you struggle with shame or guilt, the voice is probably pretty loud. You might not even be aware of the voice, because it’s always been there. It’s your normal, and it’s always talking. Kind of like an annoying roommate who won’t shut up. Yammering on and on, telling you that you’re never going to make it, you’re a loser, you’re too fat, you’re too skinny….on and on.

Here’s the thing. In order to go for your dreams, in order for you to realize the level of success that you really want, you’re going to have to deal with that roommate. She needs to go. Because she’s keeping you small and holding you back. She’s drowning out your truth and making you believe her lies.

It’s time to turn down the volume on the roommate, and turn up the volume of your heart. So that you can start to hear, and begin to believe, the truth about you.

The truth is, you are awesome. You do have what it takes. You have everything you need, to get everything you want.

You have to start tuning in to that station and listening to that voice.

That’s the key to building the business of your dreams. That’s the magic that will have you so jazzed about yourself, so in love with yourself, that you begin showing up big, and seeing big stuff start to happen. Clients will be drawn to you like never before. Money will begin to flow. You will attract success like you never imagined. Because you believe that you deserve it.

So how do you do it? How do you turn down the volume on that annoying roommate that lives in your head?

Honestly, it requires work, determination and commitment. If you have been listening to that voice for a long time, then it will take time to shift your attention. It doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a practice. It’s one of the biggies that my clients work on and even with the help of a coach it can be daunting.

There’s good news, though, and that is that you can start today. There are a few simple techniques that you can apply right now, that will help you begin the process of shifting your attention from that annoying roommate in your mind to your voice of truth that lives in you.

  1. Awareness. Being aware that you even have this voice is the first step to being able to choose something different. So many women are unaware that they have a sabotaging voice in their minds. It’s so familiar, it just feels normal. But it’s not! It’s not normal to believe that you aren’t worthy, and that you aren’t ‘enough’! So just pay attention. Bring your attention to your thoughts throughout your day. Are there times when your thoughts are negative? Sabotaging? Do you have thoughts that are limiting? Does your mind tell you all the reasons why you will never be successful? What time of day is this voice the loudest? Do some journaling and dig into what this voice is saying.
  2. Embodiment. Now that you’re aware of this voice, it’s very helpful to realize that it is Not Your Voice. It isn’t. It feels like it, because it’s in your mind, right? But it’s not. Try the roommate analogy and create a character for this voice. Give her a name. What does she look like? The more you can separate this voice from you, the easier it will be to turn down the volume.
  3. Choice. You are now aware of the voice, and you are now aware that this voice is not you. Now you can choose not to listen to it. You can choose to turn down the volume and say, ‘Yeah, I hear you. But I’m choosing not to listen right now.’ And shift your attention to other thoughts. Ones that are true. Thoughts that line up with what you know to be true about yourself. You can turn up the volume on your truth voice and choose to listen to that instead.

Practice these three steps and notice the difference. The more you listen to your truth voice, the more you will begin to believe it. It’s time to take control of your mind and silence the lies.

It’s time to get what you want. It’s time to realize all of your dreams. It’s time to be who you need to be to get what you’ve always wanted.

Right?

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Valerie JonesValerie Jones is a Life & Transition Coach. She is passionate about helping women create the lives they’ve always wanted – not the lives they think they ‘should’ be living, but a genuine, authentic life that is a full expression of their birthright.  She brings humour, compassion and wisdom to her coaching and to her writing, and creates a safe space for others to express their truth. She is also a corporate coach, working with the United Nations and eBay.  She lives in British Columbia, Canada, and has three amazing children who are bridging into adulthood, which is a whole new ball game as a parent. Valerie loves good red wine and travelling whenever and wherever the opportunity arises.
You can connect with Valerie on social media here: Facebook | Twitter | Instagram

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From Resistance to Change: Tolerating Exercise to Build Good Habits by @mayachendke

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Quote about resistance to physical exercise by Janis Isaman of My Body Couture.

by Maya Chendke  | Featured Contributor  

“Eat well!”

“Be mindful!”

“Exercise!”

We should all be doing these things – things that we know are good for us, will improve our quality of life and things that are actually quite “simple” to do. For example, eat carrots, not chips; meditate, instead of watching Game of Thrones; and walk around the block instead of watching more Game of Thrones.

As an entrepreneur, my best avoidance tactic usually looks like skipping Thursday-night yoga so I can cram in more work. But then something comes up – an injury or an impending swimsuit season – and I’m forced to face the consequences of neglecting myself. A couple of years ago, I had a horseback riding injury and I took the path of least resistance, avoiding the one thing that would make me stronger when I got back in the saddle – exercise.

So why do we choose to not do the things that we logically know could make life a heck of a lot better? I asked corrective exercise guru, Janis Isaman, and professional coach, Cheryl Keates, what we need to do – physically and mentally – to overcome resistance to change and bring out the best of ourselves.

Commit, Don’t Quit

Isaman is the owner of My Body Couture, a private movement studio in Calgary, Alberta. She provides a customized approach to health, fitness, and nutrition and works with injured athletes and executives whose sedentary lifestyles have led to injuries they need to heal. I asked Isaman to explain the physical reasons that we resist good habits like exercise.

“Generally people jump to programs or plans that require major, jump-to-the-deep-end-of-the-pool kind of changes,” she says, noting that we’re setting ourselves up to fail when we do that.

“I’ve heard dozens of clients say something like ‘I should start running.’ But they actually don’t enjoy running,” she muses. “There are a few scientific facts about exercise, but basically it boils down to ‘get off your ass and move,’” she says bluntly.

Isaman’s approach to her own training involves doing things that she actually enjoys, like Yamuna Body Rolling and Pilates, as well as scheduling “non-negotiable” sessions with her trainers. (Yes, trainers have trainers, too!)

Her biggest recommendation is to break things down into smaller steps toward your goal. So if your objective is to eat healthier, then set the goal of trying a new fruit each week, but don’t try go vegan “cold turkey”.

“Commit to five minutes,” Isaman says. “If you can’t do that, commit to two minutes. Or one minute!” The point is – commit to something do-able and then move.

Like Attracts Like

With something like a fall or injury, it is all too easy to stop trying. Using my back injury as an excuse, I have avoided jumps and skipped many a gym workout, laying the blame on my old-lady back. But after embarking on this quest to build better habits, it quickly became apparent that I wasn’t only suffering from scar tissue and soft muscles; there was a broken record playing in my head.

“Motivation comes from something being really desirable or really intolerable,” explains Cheryl Keates, a certified professional coach. Keates works with clients globally via Skype, and helps them balance emotional, physical, and financial health while working through resistance and fear.

“We attract whatever we put our attention, energy, and focus on. So those who are more positive, [and who] commit and execute will have greater success,” she explains. “If one focuses on the negative or what’s not possible, they will achieve more negative results.”

Just like Isaman’s observations about physical training, mental training is an area where we can expect too much, and be quickly disappointed because we can’t meet our goals.

“One can get shifts quickly, however, it takes time and consistency to form new, sustainable habits,” says Keates.

When she coaches clients to overcome blocks, she helps them to identify the negative thoughts or emotions that may be getting in the way, and then teaches them re-framing techniques. But even the strongest of us have to fight moments of weakness.

“Whenever I start to see myself going down the road of self-sabotage or procrastination,” says Keates, “I practice the same techniques I use with my clients. And if I need to go deeper, I reach out to my coach.” (Yes, coaches have coaches, too!)

But you won’t get anywhere without mental commitment.

“Taking ownership, investing in one’s self and being willing to do the work is critical,” she says. “When one operates from a place of overall health and balance, the possibilities are endless.”

The Mirror of MyselfChendke See You On the Yoga Mat

So rather than longingly (and enviously) stare at the strong, toned bodies of Monday night’s Dancing with the Stars pros, the wisdom from Isaman and Keates has inspired me to set some goals and step into the shallow end. My weak riding is either going to get depressing or land me in the hospital, neither of which will get me back over a cross rail. These words from Isaman have become my new mantra, and maybe they’ll stick with you, too:

My results will mirror my efforts.

 

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Maya Chendke She Owns ItMarketing consultant, entrepreneur, writer and horse mom Maya Chendke is going through a powerful start-up year. Her company, mPath Creative Consulting, works on website, marketing, content and social media projects that flex her signature hybrid style of creative/analytical. She is also part of a virtual anti-agency, Horsefly Group, where she leads clients with clever ideas and her color-coded iCal.

Her entrepreneurship track record includes a couple of start-ups and a self-published novel (Awake but Dreaming). A rogue introvert, you’ll spot her at start-up meetings sporting riding breeches and a messy bun as the Woz to her Jobs-like partners (or the Sandberg to their Zuckerbergs).

Maya has an MBA from the Rotman School of Management where she was a standout presence in the male-dominated business school environment. She has a certificate from the Stanford Graduate School of Business Summer Institute for General Management and a Bachelor of Journalism from Ryerson University.

She loves to help people make the most of their marketing budget and has an addiction to analytics. She is always on the lookout for great talent and great projects and loves to facilitate introductions.

In her downtime, she’s diligently rehabilitating her rescue horse and reads ~20 books a year. Tweet her @mayachendke

Four Things to Remember When You Feel Like Quitting on Your Dreams by @karen_doniere

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by Karen Doniere | Featured Contributor

Whether you’re a career woman, stay-at-home mom, freelancer, or an entrepreneur, trying to achieve the next level of success or a new dream can be challenging. It may be frustrating and time-consuming, and even affect your overall attitude. Instead of holding on to your frustration, think about your initial reasons for wanting to achieve your dream. What was your motivation? Hang on to that feeling because it’s one thing that will help pull you through the frustration, and help you avoid quitting on your dreams.

Surprisingly, there are so many reasons why you may want to quit pursuing your dreams. Maybe it’s too expensive, mentally draining, doesn’t fulfill you any longer, or it’s taking too long.

Instead of quitting, consider taking a mini-break to clear your thoughts and get a fresh new perspective. Take a weekend or day trip to enjoy different scenery. Or if possible, enjoy a few days of solitude and peace at home without electronic distractions. Even if you can only spare a few hours, plan an evening out with friends or alone to take comfort in a mental time out.

Here are four things to remember when you feel like quitting on your dreams.

1). Be patient with yourself.

New ideas and projects take time, and a lot of trial and error before coming to fruition. Thus, you have to be patient with the situation even if it’s unpleasant. In other words, trust your talent, dedication, and process. You also deserve extra patience because you’re likely doing your best to initiate change, and make things happen. Also, remember that sometimes plans can take longer than we originally expected. So again, be patient with yourself.

2). Avoid becoming discouraged.

I know it‘s easier said than done, but try not to feel overly discouraged about the slow progress of your dream. It’s okay to have a moment where you acknowledge your feelings and think things through. It’s even okay to get angry, or cry about it. But it’s not okay to degrade yourself, or anyone else because things aren’t going well. If you decide to have a moment, aka pity party, it’s fine. That moment should have healthy boundaries to help you to feel much lighter and better than when you started it.

Try this: set a timer for 15 minutes. Next, write down or say aloud everything you feel is wrong with the situation. Then, do something physical such as rip the paper up, punch the air, or go for a walk to get rid of those negative thoughts. Finally, do something positive to officially purge, and return to positivity. Do something like send a thoughtful text or an email to someone you haven’t heard from in a while, enjoy a fresh cup of tea or coffee, turn the music on and dance, draw a picture, or sing your favorite song. You should be smiling again soon!

3). Comparison is a thief.

When our plans don’t materialize, it’s easy to compare ourselves to someone else who seems to be doing well, or even slightly better than we are. If you’re not feeling inspired after thinking about someone successful, you’re allowing comparison to steal your joy and undermine your talents. Of course it’s fine to appreciate another woman’s journey, but you have to use it as genuine motivation. Comparison is very deceitful. Please be careful!

If you’re tempted to compare apples to oranges try this: look yourself in the eye in the mirror and say, ‘you’re not playing fair because you don’t know her journey. You’re very smart and talented. And, your time is coming.’ I do it all the time, and it works beautifully!

4). You did your best.

One of the most important things we should remember when we feel like quitting is that we did our best. And, who knows? You may want to try again in a few years. There’s nothing wrong with putting a dream such as a new business venture or completing a degree on hold until another time. Hopefully, by then you will have processed what contributed to things not working out, and what to do differently. Despite what happens, you owe it to yourself to remember that you’re successful and courageous because you tried, and did your best.

If you’re currently frustrated or anxious about something not coming to fruition, understand that you were talented and successful before you began, and you will still be talented and successful whether it materializes or not.

How do you manage your feelings when you feel like quitting?

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 Karen DoniereKaren Doniere is an author, blogger, and speaker with a passion to inspire women, moms, and mompreneurs to take better care of themselves. She is the chief curator of the KD Collection, where she shares her heart in every article. Karen is the author of the new Baby Bear children’s book series, and the creator of The Forgiveness Project: a positive and healing conversation where women feel safe to share their journeys. Through her mentorship program, she helps women turn their ideas into achievements, one plan at a time. Karen’s inspirational articles have been featured on websites such as She Owns It and She is Fierce.

Karen enjoys volunteering at her local domestic violence shelter, where she assists clients with polishing their resume and job interview skills. Her favorite titles are wife, and mom to three amazing young adults.

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Positive thinking affirmations! by @SarupaShah

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by Sarupa Shah | Featured Contributor

Positive thinking is not a new topic but one that can make you feel slightly inadequate. I mean when your clients aren’t renewing and the speaking gig invitations have dried up and each time you email your list you get more unsubscribes than opens, it takes some resolve to stay positive!

When someone has pranged your car, or someone spills red wine on your light colored dress while out at a very important meeting, thinking positive can feel like an impossibility.

Yet positive thinking isn’t about faking it or smiling when you are being flogged and prancing around being happy happy!shareasimage (3)

Positive thinking is something more than superficial happiness or an excuse to bury your head in the sand and avoid the truth.

Positive thinking is about building a mindset and attitude that doesn’t allow you to get sucked into the doldrums and drama which all lead to victimhood! The why me…the how can this be again….it will never be me….type of energy.

When you truly click with positive energy if any of the scenarios I describe above happen, you will acknowledge and accept them for the truth that they are and then take action because you just aren’t going to let details, illusions or things not panning out the way you want, floor you!

Positive thinking is not the mystery that you may have thought it to be!

Positive thinking is important because it helps you with:

  • attraction in all senses of the word
  • manifestation
  • keeps you healthy
  • keeps you moving to bigger and greater things
  • and so much more…!

Even though I am sure I have convinced you here about the why of positive thinking, there is a thing about HOW that I also want to share with you.

It is something you have to be deliberate about wanting to achieve and one of my favourite ways to create change in life and business is using affirmations.

Below are 3 positive thinking affirmations to get you going!

  1. I am good enough just as I am  – stops you affirming you lack something or aren’t good enough as if that is what you affirm that is where you act from and as like attracts like you create experiences based on not being good enough. This is my personal favourite affirmation of all time.
  2. Everything is good in my life – it is what you desire your life to be and it will make you feel good and therefore positive, so say it passionately and don’t let yourself believe anything else despite what illusions you plug into. Remember everything has a good reason including everything that happens for you.
  3. I am joy – positivity is linked to happiness and happiness is linked to joy. This affirmation reminds and connects you to the truth that you are joy personified and when you are radiating joy it is a positive energy which will benefit you.

Let me know how you get on with these affirmations and what questions you have about positive thinking! It is well worth the journey and well worth understanding!

Sarupa Shah

PS If you want to know how to make your affirmations work and open up your world to positive thinking galore then check out this link!

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sarupaSarupa Shah is an award winning intuitive business coach and the owner and founder of The Soul Agency. The Soul Agency works with women entrepreneurs and leaders across the globe who want to put soul and spirit back into their life and the world. Her passion and power is to show women how to heal their relationship with money, discover their life purpose and get on with living the dream. If you connect with Sarupa and sign up to her newsletter you get a FREE 8 part email course focussing on manifesting, intuition, spiritual power, business planning and healing your money story! You get meditations, eBooks and toolkits to get your soul and spirit back into business!

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