When we are stressed, we become less effective with out time. Our mind and energy is being stolen away by something that it playing on our mind. For professional working women, that can also originate from dealing with negative work environments or people. A toxic work environment can be highly stressful. Finding systems, tools and strategies to deal with negativity can actually improve your productivity.
Trapped in a Cycle
Tips for Managing Negativity.
Watch your Breathing.
The Cylinder Tool
- Take yourself out of that environment. Immediately detach yourself. If you need to go and make yourself a cup of tea or go the bathroom, this can be a good reason to leave your work station or desk. Try to find a space where you can be alone.
- Ground yourself. Consciously slow down your breathing and remember ‘low and slow’. Do you need to drop your shoulders?
- Visualise that person’s negativity sitting on you. It’s thick and revolting like stinky mud. Start flicking your fingers, shaking your hands and feet and releasing that negativity. Imagine that you are flicking off that goop, the yucky muck just falling off you. In fact, the flicking of hands is a universal practice of energy healers and spiritual healers to dispel and release any of the ‘poison’ they have picked up during the healing process. You are physically and mentally making the commitment ‘your negativity is not going to be a part of me’.
Preparing Yourself with White Light
Frustration is a Mirror
- Identify the feelings. What do these feelings say about us? What is it challenging in us?
Whatever it is that is annoying you is often something deep down inside that you resent about yourself. It is your shadow-self reflecting back on you.
- What is it specifically we don’t like about the other person? Define it. Put a label on it.
- This step might be challenging. Think about moments in time when you have demonstrated this trait and who was there to witness it? Write down as many examples of this as you can, using just inititals to signify the event and the witness. This is a cognitive process to validate this event, you don’t need to re-read or recall this writing.
- Now write down ways that this person’s actions or behaviour has served you. For example, is it a mistake you won’t repeat, has it made you reconsider the way you do things or has it made you more resilient?
Barbara Clifford – The Time Tamer – Time Management & Stress Management Enthusiast
Barbara Clifford (a.k.a The Time Tamer) has spent over 20 years working in stressful and time precious industries such as film, hospitality and marketing. She has always had a burning passion for creating order out of chaos. Barbara assists people to find clarity in their environment, control of their time and alleviate stress. From gay bars to cruise ships, Barbara’s professional experience has been diverse, including contracts with small business, Not For Profits, Aboriginal Organisations, Media, Marketing, Aged Care and Health Services to name a few. Find out more at timetamer.com.au