by Kate Muller | Featured Contributor
Most people love being paid a compliment and will bask in the glow of the attention they receive.
Unfortunately, you are not one of these people.
You’re constantly swimming in a pool of self-doubt and your confidence level is below average on a good day. You underestimate yourself in every way possible and you constantly diminish your self-worth.
As a result, it’s near impossible for you to accept a befitting compliment from another person – even if it’s well-deserved.
You can continue down this path of self-loathing and accept your fate of lifelong edginess now, or you can hold your head high and commit to transforming yourself into a better, more confident you. After all, confidence is more than just a state of mind, it’s a lifestyle!
Check out these five life changing tips that will help you overcome your self-doubt and boost your confidence to a whole new level.
Be Authentic and Tune Out the Haters
Everyone has their own insecurities, but some people try to cover them up by hiding their true self behind a façade. A false self begins to take root and all signs of their authenticity start to fade away. They’re afraid of the criticism they may receive from the rest of the world, so they go through life as a faux version of themselves.
‘Be yourself’ may be a terribly clichéd moniker, but it rings true for people who struggle with low self-confidence.
Let go of your insecurities, allow yourself to feel vulnerable, and let your authentic self shine through.
The initial fear of stepping out from behind your curtain can be crippling, but once you give in and allow yourself to be who you really are, you’ll feel liberated.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Why do some people go out of their way to put themselves down? They compare themselves to other people, knowing they’ll be upset by the results.
Stop! Life’s tough enough!
Whether you’re comparing accomplishments or measuring up looks, comparison shifts your focus onto the wrong person.
When putting yourself through the misery of comparison, feelings of inadequacy inevitably start to creep in. Skip out on the negativity and fixate on what works best for you.
Everyone is on his or her own unique journey, so concentrate on yours and don’t worry about someone else’s.
Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes
We’re all our own harshest critic. We beat ourselves up when we make a mistake and enter into meltdown mode when we succumb to failure.
Guess what, we’re only human!
Failure doesn’t define you, but the way in which you react to it does. Don’t wallow in self-doubt and get hung up on your mistakes trying to figure out where you went wrong. Instead, accept your mistakes, learn from them, and move on.
Surround Yourself With Positive People
Positivity is contagious.
Who are the most positive people in your life? And what makes them so confident in their own skin?
Hang around positive people long enough and their optimistic outlook on life is sure to rub off on you. Reject the negativity that exists around you and make room for the positive energy that will encourage and nurture your self-confidence.
In turn, do your best to give off your own positive vibes and people will be attracted to your upbeat disposition, as well.
Leave the Past Where It Belongs
Living in the past, whether in a positive or negative sense, isn’t healthy for one’s personal growth or development.
Learn from your past experiences, but don’t harp on the bad ones.
And don’t base all of your future endeavors on what’s happened to you in the past, either. Refusing to dwell on the bad experiences from your past is a healthy way to go about building up confidence and strengthening your character.
The Bottom Line
Maintaining high self-esteem and unwavering confidence will have a positive effect on your career and make you a more complete and happier person. Continue to move forward and focus on your future and you’ll see a vast improvement in your overall wellbeing.
Kate Muller is a freelance writer, blogger, and digital media journalist. A Jersey girl through and through, Kate has a BA in Radio/TV/Film & Journalism and boasts a wide-ranging background in digital media. She’s thrived within the digital advertising and marketing industries for the past several years, working for such companies as Time Inc., NBCUniversal, and Ogilvy & Mather.
Her savvy know-how of social media trends, campaign management, and writing for the web are what drives Kate to pursue her passions and help her clients’ businesses succeed. With a diverse understanding of blog writing, social networking, television writing, and copyediting, Kate provides her clients with premium content that drives traffic to their website, engages their readers, and saves them time. Check her out over at katemullerwrites.com.
Kate is a self-proclaimed pop culture aficionado, lover of good wine, bad reality TV, and live rock and roll music. She enjoys riding bike trails, trips into New York City, food truck festivals, and wearing long scarves with dark sunglasses on scenic drives through the New Jersey countryside. You can follow Kate on Twitter at @kmullerwrites.