by Melissa Traynor | Featured Contributor
From landing the partner of your dreams to landing that perfect deal, success in general, relies greatly on confidence and conviction in what being a woman means. What it means to be a woman will be defined differently by each of you, and absolutely should, but there is one fairly misused and misunderstood necessity that seems to cross the majority. This necessary tool that empowers us greatly if we embrace it accordingly, is having a good ground of sexual fitness.
We live in a society of overwhelming media portrayal of unrealistic and unREAL bodies and ageless women, who claim otherwise which is where the problem lies. Women’s lack of confidence starts and, unfortunately for most finishes, at how we look and this crosses many borders outside of the bedroom. Confidence breeds and feeds success and to be confident and comfortable in your own skin, with your own sexuality, is your first step.
Think I am lying on how much this seemingly trivial aspect may be the chain holding you back? I am not sure who the lucky people were who got to take part in the research studies but yup there is actual validity to what I’m saying (read this if you want more proof https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/games-primates-play/201203/the-truth-about-why-beautiful-people-are-more-successful).
Aside from the myriad of benefits of being confident in your own skin to stand tall and to own your days (and nights), having sex to orgasm and even better with a partner, can actually help you to be more successful too. When we orgasm we release a stress reducing hormone called oxytocin which is even higher when we don’t just have sex, but share intimacy (1). Reduce your stress levels and you will find yourself mentally and physically healthier with more energy to be productive, not just busy. Productivity equates to success.
Sexual fitness means that you are comfortable and confident in your own skin but don’t let your exterior define you, control you or use it to control others. It means that you are mentally and physically in love with yourself first so others can than fall in love with you (or your ideas).
1. Neumann, I. D. (2008). Brain oxytocin: a key regulator of emotional and social behaviours in both females and males. Journal of neuroendocrinology, 20(6), 858-865.
Music, movement and empowerment. Those three words describe what drives Melissa Traynor ACSM-HFS, CISSN. Music fuels movement and movement frees our soul. Empowerment gives us all a freedom and strength like no other to achieve our best versions of ourselves and thus, our true levels of happiness. As a trio, Melissa strives to not only embody those three elements in her own life as a journey, with a side of weird, awkward and of course amazing, but thrives on helping others to embrace the power of those elements from the outside and more importantly, from within. As a certified health and fitness specialist, nutritionist, and an all around guinea pig of life, she uses her knowledge and various experiences to help write, speak, teach and coach others on how by fueling and moving our bodies bodies gives us not only a strong body, but a strong mind. Her passion is making people laugh, smile, and pretty much just own their awesome! She is also very passionate about community, social services, mental health and human rights on an overall global scale.
My goal is to give you #MPOWERment so you can live your best life. With a black belt in ‘keeping it real’ I aim to inspire and spread good like wildfire! When asked, “What do you want to do when you grow up” I said, ” Build ladders, tear down walls and smash glass ceilings
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