Own Your Hot Mess

Own Your Hot Mess


Last month I talked about switching your perspective in the approach to anything negative – especially clutter. There’s also another very important step that we all have to take before we can truly deal with and release said clutter.

Sunshines, it’s time to own your hot mess.

Now I know that it’s easier to lay blame elsewhere. My husband doesn’t care what the house looks like. The kids are cute, little chaos creators that leave their toys all over the house. My maid ran away with the neighbor’s butler and the place just hasn’t been the same since.

However, the truth is that our actions got us to this place. Perhaps we didn’t express how important it is to us that the home is tidy. Maybe we didn’t create systems so the kids know where to put their things. Did we ever tell the maid that she’s so greatly appreciated and ask her to please not run away from us in the middle of the night?

Whatever actions or inactions we’ve been doing have put us in the exact place we are now. So while it may be challenging to take ownership of the hot mess, a beautiful thing happens when we do.


When we know and own that our actions got us here, we also know without a doubt that our actions can fix it.


Confidence in your abilities to dig yourself out is vital to the process and your success. I know without a doubt that with the right attitude and game plan, you can do it. But if you don’t think you can do it, no amount of my help will work.

Now I know that if you’ve been casting blame onto others for years, this will be very challenging to accept. For those that are cluttered due to illness or other events truly out of your control, you didn’t even have a choice in the actions that led to the hot mess. However, this exercise isn’t about dwelling in the past or beating ourselves up over letting our home get to its current state.  We no longer participate in the blame game – of ourselves or others. We accept these actions/inactions as part of the past and move forward without the mental whippings. No good can come of that anyway.

So Sunshines, it’s time to own your hot mess! This way, you can turn it around and create a fabulous home in its place.



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